so, i have a bone to pick about this particular holiday. the day of valentines that is. (who even came up with the expression....a 'bone to pick' anyway.....weird....)
first, i am all about sharing the love. i love to love. there are many things and people that i love, and don't mind sharing love with them. so in a way i can appreciate a specific day dedicated to love....but shouldn't we be sharing it all the time? and not merely one day a year? hmmmMMMmm......i know its a good point....
second, its just stressful for everyone involved. dan cOmPleteLy stresses out about valentines day. i feel that most men probably do. and so do women. women spend all our time thinking of what the perfect valentines day will be and it never really happens like we think it should, and then we are bummed. we also put time and effort into doing special things for our man and doing our part to be as romantic as possible all week long. this stresses the man out even more. men are stressed simply because it is the one day a year that romance is a
must and some men haven't busted out the romance since LAST february 14th and are a little rusty and afraid of the expectations. they ask, 'what do i get, what does she want, what will make her oogle and want to kiss my face off because it is the epitome of perfection and romance?' ugh.
why make them stress. who likes a stressed spouse....not me. first of all, men, my husband included SHOULD....(in a perfect world) be busting out the romance daily. whether it is a love note, a small gift, a hug, a back rub, or a mere 'i love you' or their time. thats all most women want. sure there are women who are the exceptions to this thought, (maybe its you...which i am not judging) who want flowers, dinner, chocolates, a teddy bear, and hot cocoa by candlelight, but REALLY.....is it right to put such high expectations on men? i know there are men out there that are REALLY good at the romance thing and they woo their women all the time. awesome. great. but its just not how it works in most relationships. thats all i am saying. at some point or another every married and non married women has had too high of expectations for their man, and been savagely disappointed. (myself included) and its not fair to them. they don't read minds and romance isn't as natural as leaving the toilet seat open. so maybe help them out a little and ease the stress. give em ideas....maybe its not AS romantic, but its better than eating stale chips at 10:00 watching the news right on the night of february 14th.
and thirdly.....my last issue with the day starting with the letter V.......pink and red is a bad psychedelic combo.....PLEASE....lets move to the prettier holiday of easter shall we....pastels are much easier on the eye.
and with all that being said, i need to go wonder what dan is doing for me tomorrow and what romance he will bust out.....after all, this week i have sent him love notes, heart shaped sandwiches, strawberry pie and chocolate covered strawberries in his lunch.....and that doesn't even come close to what i have planned for tommorrow. i am thinking he probably will take me on a hot air balloon ride with micheal buble singing in the background and then he'll give me the perfect gift (that i can't even tell you what it is, because i don't even know what the perfect gift would be.....but i'm sure he does,) and we will embrace like they do on those jewelry commercials.......i'm sure thats exactly how it will play out.......hahahaha.....i am COMPLETELY joking......
and for some pics to make a long post longer....
here is a family pic of today visiting dan on his lunch break. (sorry nova, you have a sun chin)
and for those of you who feel that dan and i taint the picture....here is one with just nova.